It’s Not What You Said, It’s How You Said It

Andrea Gardner produced the above video with her husband to show the power of words – hence, the title. Gardner is a qualified Heal Your Life coach, Hypnotherapist, and author of the book “Change Your Words, Change Your World.” She also has a viral marketing company called Purplefeather which specializes in online content creation helping prospects expand their brand.

Gardner’s video shows that if your message isn’t being heard, then change the way you’re saying it. To get your point across, add a shocking element to grab attention. Further, don’t say what has already been said.

How many times have you seen a homeless person hold up a sign that said “Homeless. Will work for food.” You may have given them food or money, but most people didn’t. Most people can’t relate to that type of situation. The blind man’s revised sign that read “It’s a beautiful day, and I can’t see it,” was effective. It forced people to realize that someone could not have something they were taking for granted. By changing the words around on the sign, the blind man’s message encompassed everyone around him. People couldn’t help but sympathize with him.

In her book “Change Your Words, Change Your World,” Gardner discusses how our word choice influences our lives. She explains how our words can transform relationships, improve our health, and help us find our purpose.

Gardner says we need to simply slow down when we’re speaking. Often, we do not give our brains a chance to process what we want to say before we say it. In these moments, we don’t give ourselves a chance to really say what we want. We all know that’s dangerous.

For example, I am taking a public speaking class. I. Hate. Public. Speaking. I do the whole sweaty palm, heavy breathing, st-st-stutter thing. I’ve noticed, though, if I take a deep breath before every point I want to make, my mind has time to think about what it is I am about to say. Then, it comes out the way I planned for it to. Instead of some sentence full of unnecessary “ums,” and “wells.”

Have you had a situation where your words came out wrong? Let’s talk about it! Comment Below.


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